Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening. ~Maya Angelou

When we obtain feeling of jealousy for any situation in life, whether its fear or suspicion valid or imaginary, it can feel very real to the jealous person. There are many reasons why someone develops these types of feelings, it can be because we feel we no self value or worth, it may be because we feel pain from the apprehension that we are not equally beloved by the person to whom we devote our love entirely too, maybe it’s because we are looking outward to others fortunes and not inward on our own achievements. Whatever the reasons, it is clear Jealousy breeds on doubt, it transforms like wildfire into madness but can cease entirely as soon we create certainty within ourselves. 

There is only one alternative - self-value.  If we don’t learn to love ourselves, we will never know what it feels like to be loved and appreciated in relationships, work place, with family etc. Without this self appreciation, we will always think wonderful things happen because of luck or by mistake, we truly cannot genuinely enjoy our lives until we learn to realize that we are worth more, we deserve happiness, and we develop self confidence in our abilities and a sense of appreciation for all that we have accomplished. Communication is also important, we often assume  that others know exactly how we are feeling, we expect someone close to us to “just know”, if you feel you deserve a raise, or your partners behavior makes you feel uncomfortable,  you cannot be angry at someone else because they are not psychic. It is your right and responsibility to voice how you feel in a compassionate respectful way, and even if ultimately the  issue does not work out to your favor, at least you can rest assured that you were open and honest and tried your best to resolve  it.

“Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences.  Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security.  Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.”  ~Jennifer James